Tips on Positive Thinking

Tips on Positive Thinking
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Many of us have been there… Stuck in that metaphorical (yet surprisingly realistic) dark place that swallows all joy and light from our world. It can often be seemingly impossible to find a way out of that deep, dark abyss. Thinking can be our best and worst friend. Tips on positive thinking are all over the place, but what’s worth knowing?

It may seem impossible to pull a positive moment out of certain situations, but sometimes the small (and often bypassed) moments are ones that matter the most. Maybe a metaphorical safety cord has been cut and you feel unsafe, unstable, lost, or abandoned. These feelings, when allowed to become chronic (or frequent), can hurt and hinder our overall growth. On the worst of days, it can be ridiculously difficult to find a single reason to smile or be thankful. But if you’re alive and can find anything to appreciate in this world at all, you have a reason.

On the worst of days, it can be ridiculously difficult to find a single reason to smile or be thankful. But if you’re alive and can find anything to appreciate in this world at all, you have a reason. That’s one majorly positive thing you have to hold onto.

One tip for battling negative thinking, self-doubt, and overall lack of happiness in life is being honest. You should be honest with yourself about your role in your current emotional situation. You have to acknowledge that you hold the power to either be beaten down or to take steps rise above from it. Being honest with ourselves isn’t easy, it’s essential. There are definitely outside contributing factors to consider, but we’re in control of whether we move forward or stay stuck in the mud.

In this generation, it isn’t abnormal for us to look at ourselves and question whether we’re “right” or not. We question our weight, our body, our job performance, the clothes we wear, practically everything about ourselves. All of these things inhibit us from thinking positively about ourselves and the world we surround ourselves in. It also isn’t abnormal to want to change these thoughts — and you can!

Limiting beliefs are thoughts that we or an outside influence impress on us that hinder us in some way. By allowing these thoughts to invade our minds, a chain reaction is set into action. We may then become crippled by these thoughts and feel unable to make decisions with a clear mind set. We are tempted to limit ourselves and keep the cycle of self-doubt in play, making the job of being a positive thinker more difficult.

Being human, we, if given half the chance, are highly inclined to choose the easy road. To a degree, when things are difficult, an easy out becomes irresistibly enticing. Sometimes the consequences of taking these paths may not be clear at first. Some of us that suffer from bi-polar disorders, anxiety, or other stress-related mental issues struggle with the decision to work or avoid responsibility (for fear of failure and such) daily. While there are medications that seem to alleviate some of these symptoms, there “demons” tend to linger. (The feelings of uncertainty, the fear of the thoughts finally choking off all your hope, and even the haunting stigma that there is something wrong with you).

Remember that these feelings are thoughts as well — and we can be in control of our thoughts, just as we can be in control of our actions!

The thought process behind training your brain to accept the concept of positive thinking is fairly simple. That doesn’t mean the path to making it a routine is. We must develop a dedication to our own improvement. An improvement we are happy with, not an improvement of ourselves for others.

You might be dealing with chronic negativity if you experience:

  • Unpleasant environmental and social interactions. You no longer think it’s fun to do anything… with anyone!
  • Poor perceptions of your surroundings and memories. You remember things fine, (or maybe you don’t) but things weren’t fine in those memories.
  • Sluggish functioning. Your brain isn’t moving as quickly as it probably once was, and your body probably isn’t, either.
  • The feeling that you’re not really “okay” and it seems to be normal, now. No further explanation necessary, but this can also be changed — even if you do happen to, unfortunately, suffer from depression.
  • You may be more inclined to believe that rejection (or other temporary setbacksis inevitable. It isn’t inevitable. You can change everything.

We always seem ready to punish ourselves for setbacks in our lives. While it doesn’t hurt to acknowledge that things didn’t go as we wanted (or needed) them to, we don’t need to become negatively obsessed like that. Punishment focuses on the past. Don’t we want to move forward?

Individuals that have a history of negative thoughts or limiting beliefs are eight times more likely to be depressed than someone that is optimistic by nature.

Some people are born with little metaphorical balls of sunshine inside. Some people are born with rainclouds above. Neither one has to be stuck in either state.

In teens and young adults, limiting beliefs can cause poor performance in school and work. (Coordination and decision-making skills are affected by negative energy). Those negative beliefs can further lower their self-esteem. Though they, and we, may be blindly preventing our positive potential from manifesting around us, they are also powerful enough to turn it all completely around.

Hope should never be lost. No matter how rough the waters are. Stem the tides of stress and worry that may be flooding through your veins right now.

There are many techniques and positive steps that you can take to make the situation better. Marvelous amounts of power lie within each and every one of us.

You are in control of what you hope for, what you do, and what you get. It doesn’t mean you can’t ask your higher being for help or have a relationship with one. But we do live our lives ourselves. We do think our own thoughts. We cannot control the thoughts of others. We may be able to influence them, but everyone thinks for themselves. We can choose to live dreams or nightmares!

By becoming dedicated to pushing negative energies out of your life (and your thoughts) and establishing more positive energies (internally and externally) you can see change quickly in your life.

  • When you make focusing on positivity a habit, it can dramatically improve your cognitive responses. You’re also more likely to remain focused (and alert) throughout your days.
    • Neurologists have found that nerves are stimulated and growth is promoted more often in the minds of optimists than pessimists.
      That increase in nerve conduction can help with perception and cognition.
  • You can eventually decrease your stress levels by making firm decisions and increase mental productivity by being able to quickly make good decisions on things that require more reflection.
  • Positive thinking can make it easier to be attentive to others when in conversation. You won’t be as likely to bail on that friend who’s been begging you to lunch!
  • If you work in a creative environment, positive thinking can drive this creativity to new exciting levels.
  • Positive thinking can lead to whole health: mental, physical, and spiritual.
  • There is always room for improvement with positive thinking. Not any one person is safe from the temptation to let negativity in. But each one of us is powerful enough to deny its entry.

There are countless tools and resources to help you make it over the rough patches… which we’re all bound to hit. That’s why we must keep going with our positive progress. Don’t like the heat? Find something you can do to enjoy it… like swim!

  • Encourage yourself through any of your small victories. Don’t expect others to make you feel good about yourself. Make yourself a milkshake if you did really well at work today!
  • Have the desire for and belief that the bad times will pass. 
    • Despite any missteps you may have, your thoughts and past and present deeds do not define you as a whole. Your ultimate goal in life does. That only matters to you.
  • Everyone has the gift of unique perception. Our own experience is singular to any other’s on the planet. We will never truly, completely know or be another person and that’s the most awesome gift we have. We have the complete freedom to be the completely unique creatures we truly are!
  • If you’re willing to dedicate yourself, you can do just about anything you could ever wish to.

Help Others When You Can

This is one of the most guaranteed-to-work ways to increase the levels of positivity in your life. Unless you haven’t yet healed from a negative, internal affliction, it should be easy to find random, kind things to do every day for people around you.

When you’re still hurting, you may be withdrawn and less likely to see the desire for attention or help in others. While you do need to heal yourself first, maybe helping someone while you help yourself isn’t a bad idea. If you’re not suffering from an addiction to a substance, and the person you have in mind to help won’t be a negative influence, try making new friends.

Oftentimes, people who heal together stay bonded forever. There are very few connections in this world that could compare to feeling broken and lifting another broken spirit. If this soul is a kind soul, they will usually return the favor. That’s the awesome power of positivity. It can be somewhat natural for some of us.

How could you help?

There is an infinite list of actions and words that could be spoken to help someone (or yourself)… but if you’re just looking for somewhere to begin, here are a few ideas of things you could do or say to make someone’s day.

  • Look in the mirror and tell yourself (or each other) how beautiful you are. Repeat this as many times as you wish, whether you believe it or not. Fun fact, the more we tell ourselves things, we more likely we are to believe them. So keep telling yourself this every day. You already are beautiful, but you’ll believe it one day (even if it takes a few years — believing is key in manifesting).
  • Listen to the song that makes it really hard for you NOT to dance. A song about sunshine. A song about listening to frogs croak and floating in a boat. Something happy that doesn’t have to make you think about anyone’s happiness and movement but your own!
  • Go out and do the thing you like. Negative thoughts coming to mind? Think about that cool bird that just flew by. Think about the color of the sky. Think about anything in the world other than something bad. Enjoy yourself in your favorite location, alone or not.
  • Smile at strangers. Doesn’t matter if they don’t smile back. Don’t wait for the return smile if you feel like they won’t return it. Just smile and continue forward. Smiles are contagious and that person will probably find themselves smirking a few moments later, anyway!
  • Hold the door for someone. If they’re unappreciative, oh well. You did that nice thing and something good is bound to happen, just be patient and not expectant.
  • Cook for that loved one who called or texted you, complaining about how they can’t move from the couch. Things like that should make you and that person feel better at the same time!
  • If you have nothing going on and don’t need some time off, pick up that extra shift that person desperately needs anyone to cover. Forget about getting a written IOU. You’ll pick up some extra cash and they’ll be peaceful since their shift is covered. It’s a win-win, right? Nothing past that matters too much.

Sure, these things might seem obvious. You can take things a lot further, as I mentioned before, though. This was just a starter kit for thinking and doing positive things! We hope you continue on the path to positivity, and if you do, you’ll definitely profit from it! Positive thoughts, positive actions, positive words. Forced or not, we’re on our way to manifesting a much more positive life!

What is Manifestation?

What is Manifestation?
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What is manifestation? How do we achieve it? Does this process happen organically or through reflective study?

If you’re like me, this question unfolds into many subsequent questions that seem impossible for me to answer directly myself! We’ve heard all about manifesting reality, but what the heck does that phrase even mean, honestly?

There are many different definitions for manifestation. The simplest and most relevant to us is that manifestation is something (like a happening, an item, etc.) that clearly resembles or displays an abstract idea (such as a thought or theory) physically.

So, after learning that, we understand that manifesting reality is creating our own reality. If we want to have a good day, despite our battle with depression, we have to manifest something positive, right? Let’s learn a little more about the history of manifestation and what it can do for us in the present.

The word manifestation first rolled off our tongues in English-form around 1375-1425, during the late Middle-English time period, converted from its original Latin form.

Another way to look at this word is that manifestation can be the public display of emotion (feelings) or something theoretical made real. In that sense, you’re manifesting tears from sorrow and pigs being passengers on planes is the manifested form of pigs flying!

It seems to be that manifestation is often held hostage by its selective meanings. The religious, or spiritual, origin of the word is where all adaptations of its meanings have branched from. Documents from the past state that when something spiritual became real, it was spiritual a manifestation. (Such as angelic visitations and healings). When stretched and adopted by other cultures, the word has become important in nearly all aspects of many human lives.

That brings me back to my question of what is manifestation (other than a slippery term that we as human beings struggle to comprehend the true meaning of)?

Does it affect all of us? If so, how? How is manifestation perceived by the majority of us, as human beings? Is it an outward force that brings all our biggest fears and greatest hopes to life? Or is it something from the inside that we project outwardly into our reality? Is it possible that we could, in point of fact, actually be a result of our own manifestations?

The human race has, for an insurmountable amount of time, struggled with our understanding of the world around us. We’ve tried to find our places in its vastness, among our fellow homo sapiens. We’ve tried retreating to our own private islands for solace from the bustling, confusing world at large. We understand the basics and we grow close to understanding how a lot of things work, which would’ve been impossible centuries ago. But what is it about the power of perception and manifestation that we can’t seem to get just right? Why aren’t we all wealthy and insanely successful if we wake up and chant affirmations?!

Many of us are almost always in a constant state of flux. Shifting from one thought to the next, moving from one location to the next, and almost never truly happy with where we are at that moment. We wish we could be elsewhere at the same time.

If there is one universal truth it is that, as humans, we are pretty darn hard to please! This lack of pleasure leads to impatience and intolerance for others. Why do you think some of us admire Canadians so much, eh? They usually seem pretty pleased, don’t they? Polite and peaceful, pleasant folk are nice to know!

Manifestation is, quite literally, the real answer to many of the questions we have floating around in our heads. It’s the decimal in Pi, but it’s also the realization that you, at the age of 33, want to buy a taco stand. It’s all of these things and more.

Manifestation is the realization or the materialization of something internal that we project into actually being. Put in simpler terms, the concept is mind over matter, you get out what you put in, and all the likes. The concept is the same at the end of the day… Your life is what you to make it. Not what you hope for. Not what you wish for and never receive.

You have the power to change something you don’t like into something you can appreciate. Why do some of us believe it’s silly or childish to manifest your own, positive reality? Have you been duped into some “heal yourself with hamburgers” scheme? We’ve all probably bought into things that didn’t work before. But was it user error or just a scam? If it was a scam, shame on those deceptive people. Sometimes, we don’t put enough real, mental effort into the things we try, though!

The body and mind, when in unison, are capable of powerful things. So why not buy that taco stand? Why not go for that big promotion? Why not keep struggling to achieve what you want without results? Really.

Why don’t we take this opportunity to make things better now?

Why do we delay gratification when we could be tapping into our real potential and manifesting our perfect situation now? Why worry about whether we’re good enough or get mired down in self-doubt?

Didn’t it feel good as a child, believing anything was possible? That we are, in fact, capable of wonderful things just through our sheer determination and willpower? What made you stop believing that? Do you feel that belief burning in your belly again, yet? You should!

Are we not the masters of our own fates?” Personally, I think the Bard, William Shakespeare was onto something when he coined that phrase in his infamous work, Julius Caesar, written in 1599.
As difficult as it may seem to be to believe in anything today, let alone our own power, we must believe we have control of ourselves. Though we may allow our control to be limited or subjugated, it is completely our own to distribute.

We place the majority of our personal power within:

Work. Some of us delve out our precious time to employers that perpetuate the need for us to excel at menial tasks and succeed in things we are not passionate about. Unless you have a more positive work situation, you have little power in this position. Build it up or move on.

Home: A few of us allow our self-worth to be determined by the status of “success” in our relationships with family, friends, or significant others. We’re practically handing away our power, free-of-charge, in these situations. We do things to make these people happy or to appreciate us more and sometimes feel underappreciated or like we didn’t enjoy enough time together. We almost always want more time with our favorite people. We may become so involved with our relationships we can’t balance our other priorities and our power levels decrease even more.

Social networking: We have an overabundance of power in these situations. We can creep on anyone we’d like, usually, and that doesn’t usually have a positive outcome… because, though we may be enjoying a few of our favorite feeds, we’re also probably comparing our lives and appearances to those on our friends list. Negatively or positively doesn’t matter because all in all, we’re in the powerful position of judgment on social media. Positive things don’t come from spending all your time thinking about how horrible Pamela’s pictures turn out.

Just ask yourself the following:

What do I want now? What makes me happiest? What can I do to obtain and attain these things?

Through manifestation, we are able to put aside most, if not all, of the guess work in our daily lives. By accessing the strength we often hide away for moments of crisis, we can achieve great things in our lives.

Being symbiotic organisms we, as distasteful as it may sound, function similarly to viruses in terms of how we conduct ourselves. If we’re happy people, we generally want those around us to be happy people too, so we’re more willing to make this happen.

Some of us forget that those we place in positions of power deal with insecurities as well. When we allow these negative aspects free reign in our lives we, ourselves, end up becoming the contagion that infects our worlds with negativity. We spread this to our work environment, then bring that back into our home, and watch the destruction rain down on us through a sieve-like umbrella. All because we lack the will and the know-how to make the change in our lives that each of us truly desires.

The snares of the world are easy to fall into if you’re not careful because if Captain Barbosa taught me anything, “here, there be monsters.”

Some keys for avoiding negative thinking:

Don’t wallow. I know it’s tempting at times to just lay in bed with the covers over your head, but don’t give in on those days. Strike out on the adventure that is your life! Make the lesson to be learned the key element to any bad situation. Learn from past mistakes and press forward.

Face fear. We all have our little hang-ups. Could be heights, snakes, spiders, rejection, failure, it doesn’t matter. It could be any fear, the thing to remember is, don’t let it rule you. You make your choices. You are the one in charge of how things affect you even if you can’t control what affects you. Don’t be afraid to ask questions. Learning and discovery are key elements to a life full of pleasure. Being open to learning and trying something new will open new horizons for your life now and later.

Forget about failure. Be strong and fail. Failure only means that you tried, you gave it your best shot, and didn’t succeed. Learn from it and next time you might succeed. Don’t let “maybe” hold you back. Keeping yourself in mind and the things that you want to achieve can be difficult, but it’s absolutely necessary! With work, kids, homework, husbands, wives… there seems to be a never-ending strain put on us.

Despite having a lot on your plate, learning to successfully manage your hectic schedules and still being able to find a moment of repose is important. Taking just ten minutes a day to look at yourself in the mirror and realize all the wonderful things that you have already (and will continue to) offer this world will give you strength.

Don’t body shame and compare. Don’t look at yourself as something disgusting, something unfit and unworthy for someone to admire. Every one of us has had those days where nothing fits, we are tired, and we just can’t deal with our bodies. But your body is special — no one in this world could carry it the way you can.

Wishing to change yourself to fit someone else’s standard, societies standard, or even your own is not a healthy wish. A healthy wish is to live the best life you can live, for yourself and your loved ones. This is the kind of wish that can be made into reality. Wishing to be a celebrity is just unrealistic unless you have a special talent and the willpower to get where you need to!

Don’t rely on others for your happiness. You will always be enough to make yourself happy; you know what makes you happiest. You can’t look to other to people for verification on how much your time, health, and heart are worth. Only you get to make that decision. You should make it higher daily.

If you’ve lost touch with who you were, think of this as an opportunity to become someone incredible and unique. Take advantage of your new determination and spend time getting to know your new self. When you discover it, realize that you are setting new goals for yourself. Your current job, money, living situation and outward appearance don’t determine your future worth. Allow yourself plenty of room to grow and learn, and experience all that you want out of your life. Positive, new beginnings will then manifest before your eyes.

Keep moving forward; let things go. If there is a day when you begin to feel your will to go on deflating like a balloon, then stop the leak. Take a few minutes to take stock of how much you’ve been doing to change things. Realize your worth is increasing with each step of progress you’ve made. These positive changes could also become your legacy.

Being able to let go of anger, hatred, biases, or vengeful thoughts over past wrongs is not only beneficial in aiding your manifestation for the life you do want, but it will decrease your levels of depression.

To achieve a positive, pleasant life, you must practive positive manifestation techniques. You are powerful. Your life can be as pleasant as you’re willing to make it. We believe in you, too.